Loss - A portal into the Reality

Just some thoughts as they came today ....

Essential realizations for me on the path towards Reality:

• There is NO real loss - since nothing really ever belongs to us (ownership is egoic)
  
• There is NO ultimate meaning to search for - everything leads to ambiguity
• There is NO ultimate answer to anything - nothing can be completely known
  
• There is NOthing you can completely control - laws of nature run everything
  

The reason why I find these essential is that we spend so much of our lives in the false pursuit - of preventing losses or crying over losses, of trying to be 100% sure of something, looking for meaning (or cause) into everything and trying to control and determine everything.

Somehow we live in an amazing illusion (maya) that there is indeed genuine ownership, meaning, ultimate knowledge and ability to determine the outcome. We become captives of this compulsive illusion. So, how do you break this illusion and SEE the Reality?

Maybe these realizations sound trivial unless you have desperately tried to investigate your loss, or searched for a meaning for living and life. It is in such failed pursuits that one comes to the realization of the negative (no ultimate meaning, no ultimate ownership, no ultimate determining, no control). For me the pursuit became desperate with the loss of Samay - and the following multitude of losses. The loss became a portal (gateway) that opened up my eyes to the Reality - which was always there. On one hand all this sounds negative. However, actually it is liberating. It is liberation from having to prevent a loss, from having to discover the ultimate meaning and truth and from having to control. Without the pressure of succeeding, the pursuit of truth and meaning becomes more natural with open eyes and awareness. It is more an adventure where the path becomes more important because you are no longer looking for a destination.

So for me, loss opened up a window (portal) into the true state of Reality.

It is all a part of the Reality!

Fear of Loss

They say that the biggest of our fears is our own death - actually we are blessed that we are not aware of it most of the time. So what is Death? It is the biggest loss we can suffer - when we lose EVERYTHING we have - including our very sense of being. So I believe that the Fear of Loss is colors everything in our life - it accompanies most of our thinking like a shadow. We perpetually feel the fear of loss and we try our best to minimize it - through prayers, insurances, precautions, hedging etc. Loss here means everything tangible and intangible - loss of money, loss of house, loss of people. loss of face, loss of an argument, loss of beauty, loss of an opportunity, loss of health ... However, loss is inevitable. It is a consequence of the most fundamental phenomenon in nature - Change. Perpetual Change. Impermanence. We see it all around us but still wish we can hold on to things, people, feelings and situations that we like.

How can we conquer the fear of loss? The answer is simple - we can only lose something if we think we have it. If we realize that actually we "have" or "possess" nothing (having is an egoic illusion), then we cannot lose anything and hence there is nothing to fear.

Alternatively, if we can "accept" whatever happens then if we lose something, it is no big deal and hence we stop fearing it. We suffer from a loss only because we cannot accept it - we believe it should not have happened. We fight it. If we do not fight it, and just accept the loss, there is no suffering and hence there is nothing to fear. I know, that to accept a loss is not easy. In fact, it is very difficult. But it is possible.

It is all a part of The Reality.